Out
of the stories we had to read for this week, the story of Equitan really got me
thinking. It made me think about how some people are nothing but hypocrites. I
assume that most people would expect that their significant other would be
loyal to them, but for some strange reason, people sometimes think it's okay to
do the exact opposite of what they want their partners to do. Take the
seneschal's wife, for example. She clearly states to Equitan that he must
remain loyal to her, while she, on the other hand, has no loyalty to her own husband.
In other words, she's committing adultery, but doesn't want to be the victim of
cheating herself. WHAT A HYPORCRITE!!
I'd
like to compare this to modern day ideals on this subject. Cheating is, unfortunately,
a regular occurrence in today's world. Sadly, I don't think the hypocrisy has
gone away either. People can cheat all they want, but no one wants to be on the
other side of it, meaning the cheater becomes
the one being cheated on. I just don't understand why people can't be honest
with each other. It is evident that cheating on someone isn't a new idea, so
why hasn't anything been done to fix the problem? If people are honest about
their feelings toward others, perhaps people won't jump into boiling
water/throw their disloyal lovers into a boiling pot of death.
Reading Equitan, I asked myself the same question! Why cut your nose off(wink wink) in spite of your face? However, I do believe these stories often have these little nonsensical aspects strictly for storyline purposes. Just something to speed along the story and get to the good ending.
ReplyDeleteI'm commenting on yours because one of my partners did not post a blog...
ReplyDeleteBut anyways! You are absolutely correct. I was getting confused along the way because it didn't make sense to me. People always bash each other wondering if they cheated or not. What I normally feel is that, the person that is constantly nagging you and bothering you about it, is the one that has something to hide. In Equitan, this is so true! The wife is crazy. In our current day, cheating is an everyday thing. It happens all the time, whether you want to believe it or not. I just don't understand, why cheat when you can just leave before hurting someone even more?
This post flashed me back to my Short Stories class two years ago. Loooong story short, I am that person. I don't have a "problem" with cheating. Now, I can't speak from experience in reality but in a literary and esoteric sense it isn't horrid. Using Equitan as an example, this couple's love affair isn't really the problem. When they got to the point of planning his demise is really what sealed their fate. Had this affair remained secret, it would fester but they could probably keep it up. The courtly love rule that says others can't get in the way of love is, to my mind, true. If you don't love the person you're married to it isn't really your obligation to muscle through it. Of course there are better ways than loving someone else behind another's back but there should never be an obligation to be with someone. I guess I just see cheating as completely removed from the primary relationship because it excludes someone and to be concerned with what they are doing takes up too much effort. It's a douche move in the sense that you are taking up someone else's life unnecessarily.
ReplyDeleteYour post was very similar to my own thoughts in the book. How relationships anymore seem to be labeld as good or bad is if the other significant other has cheated on their partner or not. what uoi added at the end of your post was something that I think is the best way to prevent cheating in a relationship, to share true feelings and thoughts to one another.
ReplyDeleteYour post was very similar to my own thoughts in the book. How relationships anymore seem to be labeld as good or bad is if the other significant other has cheated on their partner or not. what uoi added at the end of your post was something that I think is the best way to prevent cheating in a relationship, to share true feelings and thoughts to one another.
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